SENIOR CITIZEN- OLD AGE – A BLESSING OR A DOOM--THE DIVINE MOTHER-

SENIOR CITIZEN- OLD AGE – A BLESSING OR A DOOM--THE DIVINE MOTHER-

There is a saying--" Those who know the mother, knows the world”. The new generation having multifold engorged education, the corporate company’s offer of employment, significant amounts of pay and perks, which the third/fourth batting generation can not even, imagine except feeling happy. But, that is not the end; it is the beginning, where the predicament of the senior citizens starts, here at this juncture. But, alas, what about their care and well being taken up by their children in these days when we all celebrate ‘Parents Day’; Mother’s Day’ and of course, ‘Father’s Day’, ‘Mother-in-law’s Day’, and so on.

 In general, it is found that their son / (s) are not in a position to talk to their parents-in particular with his mother; they find no time to visit to the mother’s house, if they stay in the same city, even during holidays, festivals or other festivities, at least to say hello, or to spend a little time to have consonance their aged parents/ to the mother, they are time-bond and engaged in one or other preoccupied activities. Just think and imagine the feelings of the old/ aged persons, who happen to live separately or away from their son(s) ,on one or the other cause, like: By virtue of their son living on account of job in some other state or country; In the course of living away from them, though staying in the same city on account of their jobs, children’s education, or to be nearer to the place of working;  May be in the course of love marriages, and choose to live separately on one or the pretext;   May be on one or other account which he or his wife does not want to spell out openly.

Their offerings of excuses in not getting some time to visit and see the parents or the mother include weighty and excruciating job work, over time, late sittings at job work, or that they are not in a position to spare time to come from their place of residence. The comments of the neighborhood, the relations, and of the friends at this old age found to be unbearable to them. They may make out all sorts of excuses and explanations by supporting their son’s absence. But, the mental agony of the parents, their untold feelings, sleepless nights cannot be brought out through pen. Their swallowing of the expressions to cover up their inner feelings, the Atmaxobha  and eyes always searching for their son and to listen to him are all found be a like  night vision in dark or the night mare. The gargantuan money they possess, the relations they had, the friends, the authority, the power and the status they had, all these have found to be not coming to their rescue in replacing the sons’ presence with them, at the time of need. The old age homes, other’s counseling’s, at home celebrations on the visit of relations, friends etc, will they be of any help to them from making them to feel happy or to come out of their depressions? I felt that no person can recognize, replace, establish or detect the feelings of the Mother.

Causes may be many, but effect is the same on the senior citizens. No smothering words can help in distracting their eyes eagerly looking at the gate side, ears wanting to hear his voice of affection and love. I feel to commiserate with them; what the sin the Mother might have committed to loose all the love and affection from the son - what ever may be the reason- the separation and living away  is as true as that of the wind and beyond doubt. How to change his mind set and about misconceptions formulated, if any, toward the divine mother. Whether any of the philosophical structures and stairs helps the mother to side line the son and for eagerly waiting for his just looks towards her?              

With all the above regurgitates and surmises, still I have a belief that he, the son(s), for the parents is a person with sanity and still did not loose love and affection toward his mother, then why and how the situations can be changed and what is the solution to resolve the matter. I have no answer, but, now, at this age, when she requires a helping hand and counseling –leave aside her husband, and other relatives/friends, still, she shall have a feeling that the same is missing from her son.  Fortune favours the deserving…: Patience pays….But. At what stage, for the Mother? Will it be of any help to her when she can not be in a position to relish, realize, and understand the same, except staring at him and, as dump founded by the actions of his son? The GOD - the almighty only shall help the Mother and resolve, the son and the mother relationship, if He can?..............!!!!!!!!!