Soft !$-Article-motivation,desire, and a lot feature for future---

“It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood, who strives valiantly; who errs and comes short again and again; because there is not effort without error and shortcomings; but who does actually strive to do the deed; who knows the great enthusiasm, the great devotion, who spends himself in a worthy cause, who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement and who at the worst, if he fails, at least he fails while daring greatly. So that, his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who know neither victory nor defeat.” – Theodore Roosevelt.

 Most of the persons whether at the work spot or at other places, find themselves aloof and as discriminated from others, a typical type of negative thought emerged right from the beginning of their life span. These soft skills wake them up to the reality and make them understand that nothing in this world is unconquerable if there is real effort with positive thoughts and concentrations.

Recognize them, slowly and without even their knowledge segregate them from others, and inculcate, educate them as to how they can be helped to eliminate negative influences working on them and show the way out. Some one is shy, afraid of to take up any new assignment, a job work, or and always try to stand behind some one; they literally, succumb to any adverse criticism, they get hurt; they always feel to be alone and try to work all alone with out support and they hate groups, team works; seek out those who resonate with them. This is all nothing but lack of will power.

 The only thing to do is to recognize them and console them with greater precaution and carefulness; make them to cheerful and happy to be with you; inculcate within themselves that you are also like all the others and that you have achieved great things slowly only by creating will power.

You always make them to feel that you too faced lot of defeats and adversities, failures, disparity from among the others, insults, and so on. And after some time, make them to understand what type of privileges and perks you are now getting by self determination and personal will power. Make them to realize that they shall aspire for it and go for it.

Make them to believe that you there for them and follow them at the work spot and when needed; Enrich good will power in them by making out some or the story type matters of success like the Taj Mahal; The Rome; are not built in a day or by one person alone; the group, the team spirit shall make every thing a success and to reach the goal. Tell them that a nest by a bird is built by several attempts and with hard work.

Create full confidence and reality of the life. Push them forward and make them to take up the task with a challenge that they are no less than any other person; they are equally strong and have strength to face stress and have stamina to reach to the goal.

12: Soft Skills: Desire- Early stage evaluation and its control work On the Character and Values:

                There need be no further explorations, explanations, and detailing about its meaning, for each and every work, word, just go through, you shall Analyze and understand through heart and soul as to the Following:

·                                                    No predecessor is a hero to his successor'
'Character and Values count foremost; this reformation makes ethical conduct and discipline';

·                                                    "who you are, what your values are, what you stand for-they are your anchor, your North Star; You won't find them in a Book; You find them in YOUR soul;(Anne Mulcahy, CEO, Xerox)";

·                                                     " Desire is the mother; when strong desire is thwarted, twins are born, viz. the Anger and Jealousy; Its fulfillment leads to birth of the third child, that is, attachment; Increased Attachments gives birth to the fourth child, that is the Greed; Its quenching results in birth of the youngest child, that is, Conceit.

·                                                     Sai Baba said-'Put this mother to sleep, then the children will vacate the House ( that is from YOUR mind, thoughts, and all things, your undesired wants shall go)-;

·                                                     HAPPINESS-can be increased by reducing desires, not to entertain desires; All that is necessary for the evil to triumph is for good men to say or do nothing-Edmund Burke-;

·                                                      'Injustice when tolerated gets propagated; Toleration is the basis for corruption; No organization can be corrupt if the majority of its members report unethical conduct';

·                                                     'To sin by silence when they should protest makes cowards out of men"-Abraham Lincoln;

·                                                     'the basement for corrupt practices to glow and flourish is by superiors nod and silence;

·                                                    'Life is too short to be spent in fault-finding, holding grudges or keeping memory of wrongs done to us; Forgive even before forgiveness is asked (for);forgive and forget'- Sadhu Vaswani;

·                                                     'People that value its privileges above its principles, soon lose both'-EISENHOWER:

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12: Soft Skills: FEATURE FOR FUTURE-- DISCARD NONE IN LIFE:

·       Read very carefully and in between the lines: Most important rational point in the learning of Soft Skills:::: Have Patience, by all means, they may be wrong or unworthy, or unwarranted, or uncalled for, or unethical, or hasty in action, or undermining , or and what not???????????.

·       The one who has the power of realization is the one who can bring transformation.
 When something goes wrong we immediately begin to look for excuses, or explanations, why that mistake happened. This finishes our power of realization and we will not be able to recognize our own mistake. Then we will not be able to work at improving ourselves and we will not be able to bring any transformation.
 Instead of looking for excuses for what all happened, we need to take the opportunity to check within ourselves and see our own mistake(s). When we recognize our mistake, however small it may be, we will be able to work on it. Only when we are able to realize our own mistake, will we be able to bring about transformation in ourselves. 

             (A): Did YOU feel INSULTED:

·                                                                        At one place or the other, or on some occasions you might have been insulted or you have felt in yourself that you have been insulted, but for the reasons not exposed, you kept quite or digested the insult, but, still, you are not happy about it- the happening- the incident and you are unable to forgive or forget about the person(s), and so on:

·                                                                        The INSULT, the words, is only a vibration in the air, just touching to your heart, the heart-breaking words; it is nothing but actually feeling a physical pain in the region of the heart. It occurs only when we does not compromise with the words spoken against or toward us, this is insult only when our discrimination has in fact failed us to understand in retrospective or prospective or when our mind thoughts stopped Yoga and meditation aspects:

·                                                                        When we feel insulted and then utilize the Sadhana and retire into seclusion for a while and reflect our Guru-the soul and retrieve the matters in all the ways-- that;

·                                                                        He/ or they insulted only my body, mind and little self, I did not loose any self respect at all, who are they to talk about me, I am not that;

·                                                                        He can not insult my real self, the soul, because he himself is my own self; I shall make best use of it to analyze it;

·                                                                        By insulting my little self, he is really helping me in dissociating with it;

·                                                                        His insult has enabled me to come face to face with my own egoism, my interaction with my soul, God has given me an opportunity to crush it once for all;

·                                                                        The only new point of version, now I discovered is—he has pointed out openly to me what he considers/considered as a defect in me; he has given me an opportunity to analyze the same for myself;

·                                                                        O’ God, I am always thankful to him:

·                                                                        Now, I do not get irritated and I shall not get angry and console my self and my soul:

              (B): SUCCESS at our door step:

·                                                                        Success never goes or runs away for you, unless you move, run away from it;

·                                                                        To have success in your life- always ask questions for your self, discriminate between the good, the bad and the worst;

·                                                                        Set goals, be a team leader and the best of all learn to be a team player first;

·                                                                        Always try to listen to directions, follow through on the assignments, then success follows you;

·                                                                        Have faith in the working system.  Faith  grows only when you use it;

·                                                                        Be courageous and no looking back, it takes you to your goals and you reach the destiny;

·                                                                        Courage makes you to stand up and speak boldly and with out fear, as fear is a contagious disease;

·                                                                        Courage and fearlessness, both take you to sit down with calmness, steady mind and listen, and then act;

·                                                                        Life is great, make use of it and make the most of it;

·                                                                        Try to discover your weakness and rectify for future;

·                                                                        Do not expose or explore your weaknesses to others, even to dear ones; life is precious and let them not use it to down grade you, think always that some one is awaiting to let you down;

·                                                                        Always stop making and contributing excuses and explanations.

       (C): YOU are there for me always: rather I did not miss YOU:

·                                                                        The happiness that is coming from inner peace and believing in yourself, and that I did not miss you;

·                                                                        What do we live for, if it is not to make life less difficult for each other,  even still apart, we are together;

·                                                                        A special bond holds us together, un separable by any means, a bond that grew from within, from whispered confidence, from fights and squabbles;

·                                                                        You made my mind a wonderful place for you, and now also I am stronger just always, knowing that you are there within me;

·                                                                        I wish you the sort of happiness and the joy, the happiness that comes from success and celebrations, and showing the world what you can do, for me of course;

·                                                                        The happiness that comes from being loved and part of a meaningful relationship, we are though apart;

     (D): BE HE LEADER AND NOT ALWAYS THE BOSS:

·                                                                                  The boss drives his men, the leader inspire them;

·                                                                                  The boss depends on authority, the leader depends on goodwill;

·                                                                                  The boss evokes fear, the leader radiates love;

·                                                                                  The boss says “I”, the leader says “We”;

·                                                                                  The boss shows who is wrong, the leader shows what is wrong;

·                                                                                  The boss knows how it is done, the leader knows how to do it;

·                                                                                  The boss demands respect, the leader commands respect…..

·                                                                                   Still to fill up the blank place--- the leader is always with you, always and all ways::::

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 If you try to apply on others of YOUR choice:  ‘JUST HOW I FEEL- OF YOU AND FOR YOU’:

·                                                                        Thank you sweetheart, just for believing in me, when I found it difficult to believe in myself::::

·                                                                        Thank you for saying what I have needed to hear sometimes, instead of  what I have wanted to hear…, thank you for siding with me and forgiving me, “ I love you”::::::::::; still…….

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13: Soft Skills: NOT TO BE CONFUSED WITH Murphy's Laws. - (DISAMBIGUATION): Prarabhdam or the Karma-sutras-etc. Just for reading: Information and knowledge harms nothing and none:

These following lines are brought out hereunder with a view to state the minds of some of the persons who are not aligned or meant to understand and go for the ‘Soft Skills’ application in their day to day life and achieve the target and the goal. It is aimed to project some of these only to go through and not to be taken to heart at any cost. You can just see as to how some persons does not want to exert and apply their mind set with free inspiration and will power.

·  Murphy was found to be an optimist, as they say. Murphy's Laws symbolize the error-prone nature of people and processes.  If the truth of all these laws makes you depressed, just remember that Murphy's Law even applies to itself. At times, it too goes wrong, allowing you to accomplish something.

·  It is but natural to have a lengthy and prolonged discussions and debates on which one disagree with each other, but still the arguments with citations and stories, pointing each other’s mistakes, faults- known or unknown- and the lot are often become the subject matter in a subject for which one is not concerned and connect much but have nothing to do with the result or outcome of it: Then, who is at fault? The listener, the liquidizer, the literati, and the Reader at last!!!

·  What actually you know about Murphy? In fact I do know nothing about anything as to what is that and what they mean about, but I know little about Murphy’s radio, that is all, but still I read them, but quite surprisingly I do not know as to when and how to apply them and where?;

·  Tell a man there are 300 billion stars in the universe and he'll believe you.  Tell him a bench has wet paint on it and he'll have to touch it to be sure.  ~Murphy's Law.

·  Some of the Quotations listed here under are just to mean about its existence and are generally found on web pages ,they just belong to some or the other category of quotations that are known at least when some one talk about  "Murphy's Laws."  If something can go wrong, it will. If anything simply cannot go wrong, it will anyway. Left to themselves, things tend to go from bad to worse. Matter will be damaged in direct proportion to its value. The chance of the bread falling with the buttered side down is directly proportional to the cost of the carpet. The buddy system is essential to your survival; it gives the enemy somebody else to shoot at. Technology is dominated by those who manage what they do not understand. The opulence of the front office decor varies inversely with the fundamental solvency of the firm. Tell a man there are 300 billion stars in the universe and he'll believe you. Tell him a bench has wet paint on it and he'll have to touch to be sure. The first myth of management is that it exists.  "Never attribute to malice that which can be adequately explained by stupidity."

·  If there is something you must do and you cannot do it, you cannot do anything else. 

·  How is it that our memory is good enough to retain the least triviality that happens to us, and yet not good enough to recollect how often we have told it to the same person?

·  As soon as you sit down to a cup of hot coffee, your boss will ask you to do something which will last until the coffee is cold. 

·            A bargain is something you can't use at a price you can't resist.

·  It's always been and always will be the same in the world:  The horse does the work and the coachman is tipped.

·  An unwatched pot boils immediately.

·  If you wonder where your child left his roller skates, try walking around the house in the dark.

·  Anything you lose automatically doubles in value.  

·  Everything is funny as long as it is happening to somebody else. 

·  If you wish to forget anything on the spot, make a note that this thing is to be remembered.

·  People who snore always fall asleep first.

·  The easiest way to find something lost around the house is to buy a replacement.  

·  Nothing is as frustrating as arguing with someone who knows what he's talking about.

·            If there are two or more ways to do something, and one of those ways can result in a catastrophe, then someone will do it.

·            Left to themselves, things tend to go from bad to worse.

·            It is impossible to make anything foolproof because fools are so ingenious.

·            Everything goes wrong all at once.

·            Matter will be damaged in direct proportion to its value.

·            Smile... tomorrow will be worse.

·            If there is a possibility of several things going wrong, the one that will cause the most damage will be the first one to go wrong.  If there is a worse time for something to go wrong, it will happen then.

·            If several things that could have gone wrong have not gone wrong, it would have been ultimately beneficial for them to have gone wrong.

·            Anything that can go wrong will go wrong.

·            If anything can't go wrong, it will anyway.

·            If you perceive that there are four possible ways in which something can go wrong, and circumvent these, then a fifth way, unprepared for, will promptly develop.

·            If everything seems to be going well, you have obviously overlooked something.

·            Everything takes longer than you think.

·            You never find a lost article until you replace it.

·            If nobody uses it, there's a reason.

·            You get the most of what you need the least.

·            Nature always sides with the hidden flaw.

·  It is an experience common to all men to find that, on any special occasion, such as the production of a magical effect for the first time in public, everything that can go wrong will go wrong. Whether we must attribute this to the malignity of matter or to the total depravity of inanimate things, whether the exciting cause is hurry, worry, or what not, the fact remains.

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